It’s really difficult being selfish and in some ways it’s a really important thing to be able to do for not only yourself but the relationships you have with others. I get the ideas of being loving to thy neighbour and treat others how you would want to be treated, but if you’re me or anything like me it can mean people kind of take advantage of you or always expect you to be or act in a certain way.
I am always willing to give my spare time and effort to others, I am always willing to go with whatever others want to do. If it makes them happy and off my back, then why not?
But you see, the problem with that is, I rarely get to do the things that I want to do. I rarely get to experience new or different things because I get stuck in a routine where I have to make sure everyone is happy and appeased and by no means angry or upset with me. This is easily fixed though, I pull up my big girl pants and I be bloody selfish.
It will work wonders, trust me, all of a sudden, the world is your oyster. You don’t want to go home just yet and continue the conversation with the people you are with? Then stay, regardless if the people you came with are going. Don’t want to go out Saturday night because you are exhausted and just want a little extra sleep, then just do it. The point is, if it’s going to help you in the long run to be that little more selfish than by all means just do it.
This isn’t a everyone gets a happy ending strategy though. You are going to get backlash from people who think you have changed, family members thinking you have developed an attitude. For peace of mind, be even more selfish and protect yourself. A very hard fact I learned is that people change, you can change as well, and distancing yourself may be the only chance you’ve got to preserve your mental well being.